Abortion and fatherhood — a man’s take

Fox News 13 June 2013
A dear friend of mine recently confessed to me that he was the father of one  living daughter and four deceased children.  The four were aborted, three  with his consent and one without.  My friend said the pain of those deaths  is something he copes with on a daily basis.  “The guilt and pain can be  overwhelming,” he said.  Another friend still can’t hold back tears, even after 20 years, when he  shares that he took his then-girlfriend to Planned Parenthood to erase the  “mistake” they made a few months before their wedding.   Now married  for two decades and the parent of four other beautiful children, he recounts how  his marriage was difficult and tumultuous for years until they sought  counseling.  The root of their conflict and strife?  The  abortion. As we approach Father’s Day once again, more and more men are realizing the  impact abortion has not only had on women, but also on themselves.  And the  impact is anything but positive. What’s going on here?  Abortion is a women’s issue and has nothing to do  with men, right?  Why are men struggling with the loss of their aborted  children? Because, despite what the law says, fathers are fathers from conception, not  from birth.  The landmark 1973 Supreme Court decision, Roe v. Wade, effectively stripped  the father of all legal rights regarding his unborn child. Before that  decision, men were fathers from the day their child came into being, at  conception.

…..As we approach Father’s Day once again, more and more men are realizing the  impact abortion has not only had on women, but also on themselves.  And the  impact is anything but positive. What’s going on here?  Abortion is a women’s issue and has nothing to do  with men, right?  Why are men struggling with the loss of their aborted  children?  Because, despite what the law says, fathers are fathers from conception, not  from birth. The landmark 1973 Supreme Court decision, Roe v. Wade, effectively stripped  the father of all legal rights regarding his unborn child. Before that  decision, men were fathers from the day their child came into being, at  conception. Of course, millions of men welcomed the change. The sexual revolution  was booming, and men were experiencing a new kind of empowerment we hadn’t  previously enjoyed. We could now sleep with anyone we wanted without any fear of responsibility  if our female partner became pregnant. The one thing that had kept us from expressing our rampant sexuality, fear of  conception, was now of no concern. Not only did we no longer have to fear a pregnancy, we had no legal right to  make any decision regarding the child in the womb. If our partner decided to abort, well, that was her call. If she asked us our opinion about an abortion, all we had to do was utter our  all-too-common response, “It’s your decision, babe.  I’ll support whatever  you decide.”  Which, of course, was our way of saying, “I don’t care enough  about you or the child to have a real opinion.” Abortion didn’t empower women.  It empowered men. 
http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/06/13/abortion-and-fatherhood-man-take/